Eager to Please Podcast
Ever wonder why you feel unhappy because you’re consumed with making everything ok for everyone else but yourself? Join us for a deep dive as we explore how family, relationships, social media and social norms make us so eager to please.
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Monday Mar 10, 2025
Monday Mar 10, 2025
Setting boundaries can be difficult if you don't know how to set healthy ones or how to communicate them effectively.
In this episode, we are blessed to sit down with Grammy-nominated, songwriter-singer and educator, Steve Seskin, as we take a deeper look at why it's important to set boundaries (even for men!) and why we chose to write Boundaries in the first place.
It's an episode you don't wanna miss!
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Monday Mar 03, 2025
Monday Mar 03, 2025
New Month. New Theme. New Song. Let's talk about boundaries!
I don't know about you, but I always viewed boundaries as a barrier between two objects, usually put up for safety or establishing lines.
In this episode we debunk the common myth that boundaries are a negative thing, rather than a healthy way of communicating and establishing effective, loving relationships.
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Also check out our new release Boundaries!
https://open.spotify.com/track/4VNphv99HnCXfb0uEhQhCe?si=d66b7b7949f34b7f
Monday Feb 24, 2025
Monday Feb 24, 2025
Wanting to be perfect goes hand in hand with people-pleasing.
Join me in this episode as we take a closer look at advice from Reshma Saujani, founder and CEO of Girls Who Code. In her book "Brave, not Perfect" she shares her journey from being a perfectionist to acceptance of being perfectly imperfect in order to live a more fulfilling, authentic life.
Missed last week's episode with Megan Flores? Check her out on her socials!
https://www.megan-flores.com/
https://www.instagram.com/meganmoirflores/
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Monday Feb 17, 2025
Monday Feb 17, 2025
Adulting his hard and complicated; but we are ultimately responsible for holding ourselves accountable for living authentically and by our truest selves. In this episode I am so fortunate to sit down with Nashville-based therapist Megan Flores, to talk more in depth about
Where people pleasing comes from;
Does your family or the way you were raised play a role in shaping that characteristic in you?
And how does one heal from chronic people-pleasing?
Megan shares her thoughts on the common trauma responses: fight, flight, and freeze and this "newer" term we both just learned about called fawning (or appeasing) and how “people pleasing” can be considered a response from trauma.
We also talk about the Karpman Triangle, a model of dysfunctional social interactions that we all tend to fall in and out of at some point in our lives during conflict: the victim, the rescuer and the perpetrator (persecutor).
The biggest piece of advice from Megan you'll walk away with is this - we're all human, we all make mistakes, but taking time for self-discovery and understanding that the things you choose to do are moving you forward. Take ownership of your happiness and stay curious.
You can follow Megan here:
https://www.megan-flores.com/
https://www.instagram.com/meganmoirflores/
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Monday Feb 10, 2025
Monday Feb 10, 2025
In this episode, we take a closer look at the story behind "Close to Home" written by Natalie Otto, John Salaway & Nick Serro.
Do you feel like you're living in deja vu? Sometimes history does repeat itself; and in my case, it was a marriage that was failing, but sometimes in order to find balance you have to learn to let go of the things that are not working.
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Monday Feb 03, 2025
Monday Feb 03, 2025
New month - new topic - FAMILY MATTERS!
How big of a role does your family play in shaping the person you become as an adult? We take a closer look at family dynamics, relationships and generational influences to answer this question.
Huge shout out to Music City Productions for producing this month's theme song, Closer to Home.
Written by Natalie Otto, Nick Serro & John Salaway
Produced by John Salaway & Joshua Koskela
Engineered by Joshua Koskela
Drums, Bass, Acoustic Guitar, Electric Guitar & Piano by John Salaway
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Monday Jan 27, 2025
Monday Jan 27, 2025
People pleasers tend to say "yes" even when they mean "no". Learn why the power of saying "no" can help you set healthy boundaries so you can continue to show up for yourself and others at your fullest.
Join me in this episode as we take a look at what advice Vanessa Patrick, PhD has to say about the subject in her book "The Power of Saying No".
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Monday Jan 20, 2025
Monday Jan 20, 2025
When we feel stuck, it's really hard to set yourself in motion to get out of that situation. So, I sat down with my friend, Bill O'Hanlon, a successful psychotherapist and fellow songwriter, to dive deeper into one of his most popular books - "Do One Thing Different" - where he talks about 3 major places we can make changes to see personal growth and reach a place of happiness.
~Change your doing (interactions/actions)
~Change your viewing (how you're seeing things)
~Change the context (environment)
He also shares his thoughts on what he's termed the "4 Energies" that move us forward and tell us what to do next:
Bliss / Blessed / Pissed / Dissed
Lastly, he'll share his perspective on 3 elements needed for success:
~Connection with yourself, others & beyond
~Compassion
~Contribution
You can follow Bill on Instagram and Facebook here:
IG: https://www.instagram.com/ohanlonbill/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/bill.ohanlon
Website: https://www.billohanlon.org/
Monday Jan 13, 2025
Monday Jan 13, 2025
Being a people pleaser isn't a trait we're born having; it's one we develop over time. Join me in this episode as I share a few experiences of my earliest people pleasing moments and what finally lead to my realization that I had an unhealthy relationship with the word "NO".
Monday Jan 06, 2025
Monday Jan 06, 2025
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Why should I listen to the Eager to Please Podcast?
Why You Should Listen...
Maybe you can relate to this. For as long as I can remember, I have been one of those girls who wanted to be liked, accepted; wanted to please everyone (family, friends, kids, etc) – but never felt satisfied. Why could someone who was such a people pleaser want to please everyone but herself? The answer was never really clear to me until I hit rock bottom at the old age of 40. I was spending so much time trying to make everything perfect for everyone else that I never thought I was important enough to stop and ask myself ‘what is it that you want? What makes YOU happy?’
I would listen to friend after friend tell me they were unhappy with their marriage, their jobs, the day-to-day grind that in my head I was saying ‘YES! I totally relate!’ but I was too ashamed and embarrassed to admit it. I didn’t want anyone to know I was secretly feeling the same pain/misery/unhappiness they were feeling. Why did I feel like I had to keep it together all the time? How could someone who seemingly had the “perfect” life be so unhappy?
I started turning my journaling about feelings into songs. And now, I want to share those with you in hopes it helps others who feel the same way as I did know they’re not alone.
Join me as we take a deep dive into these murky waters. It's not always going to be comfortable, but sometimes being uncomfortable is the best way to grow.