Eager to Please Podcast

Episode 16 - I'm fine, Everything's Fine with Michelle Costa

Why do we feel the need to tell people we're fine, everything's fine, when it's really not?
In this episode we sit down with my sister, Michelle Costa, who has lived out this phrase her entire life.
Sharing from personal experiences, she digs into why people do this and why it's so important to listen to your "gut feeling" when things aren't fine.
Learning to lean on those people who love you most, and not push them away was a pivotal moment for her, as was learning to accept that it's OK to not be OK. 
Maybe you relate?
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Episode 15 - No, I'm Really Fine!

Change is never easy. In fact, it's terrifying!
But, for the first time in my life, I truly mean it when I say I'm fine. Join me in this episode to find out why!
 
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Episode 14 - Camelot

Perfect. Balanced. Happy. That's what I used to think Camelot was until I figured out that place does not exist.
Sure, it's fun to imagine yourself there, but the reality is that those qualities can't be found externally. In order to find peace, balance and happiness, you have to find that within yourself. You have to learn to love and take care of the person who looks back at you in the mirror every day.
I hope Camelot brings you that reminder that it's OK to not be OK.
Written by Natalie Otto & Phil Madeira
Produced by Charles Mansour
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Episode 13 - Just Checking In - Are you OK?

What's up Eager to Pleasers?! Just wanted to check in on you to see how you're doing and to see what you've been up to lately.  
What changes have you been making to bring yourself closer to finding balance and peace and feeling more in control of your life?
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Can't wait to hear from you!

Episode 12 - Boundaries: Permission to be Human Book Notes

Change can be scary, but sometimes it's necessary, even essential, if you're just going through the motions, not enjoying what you're doing or how you're living life.  
And when you've been living your life for everyone else but yourself, it can be confusing knowing where to start.  The first step in becoming whole again is getting to know what matters to you - what values drive you.  I invite you to take the values profile quiz offered by MaryBeth Hyland, mindfulness speaker and life coach. Then you can begin setting healthy boundaries that are most true to you and in alignment with your life.
Because remember: expectations - agreement = disappointment
Doing more of what's in alignment with your values creates an environment of balance, peace and clarity - not stress. And at the end of the day, isn't that what we're all searching for?
 
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Episode 11 - Permission to be Human: Creating a Values-Driven Life with MaryBeth Hyland

As humans, we innately crave connection, belonging and purpose.
But when we base our self-worth on outside factors, like productivity, financial success or what others think of us, we quickly lose sight of what truly fulfills us.
Join us on this episode as we chat with MaryBeth Hyland, a values-based mindfulness coach, who reminds us that values come from within; and if we are not in alignment with those core values, our life quickly becomes chaotic.
Want to uncover your core values? Take the values profile quiz!
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Episode 10 - Setting Boundaries with Steve Seskin

Setting boundaries can be difficult if you don't know how to set healthy ones or how to communicate them effectively. 
In this episode, we are blessed to sit down with Grammy-nominated, songwriter-singer and educator, Steve Seskin, as we take a deeper look at why it's important to set boundaries (even for men!) and why we chose to write Boundaries in the first place. 
 
It's an episode you don't wanna miss!
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Episode 9 - Boundaries: Busting the Myth About Them

New Month. New Theme. New Song.  Let's talk about boundaries!
I don't know about you, but I always viewed boundaries as a barrier between two objects, usually put up for safety or establishing lines.
In this episode we debunk the common myth that boundaries are a negative thing, rather than a healthy way of communicating and establishing effective, loving relationships.
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Also check out our new release Boundaries!
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Episode 8 - Family Matters Book Notes: Perfection or Bust

Wanting to be perfect goes hand in hand with people-pleasing.
Join me in this episode as we take a closer look at advice from Reshma Saujani, founder and CEO of Girls Who Code. In her book "Brave, not Perfect" she shares her journey from being a perfectionist to acceptance of being perfectly imperfect in order to live a more fulfilling, authentic life.
 
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Episode 7 - Eager to Please Podcast with Megan Flores: Know Your Own Story

Adulting his hard and complicated; but we are ultimately responsible for holding ourselves accountable for living authentically and by our truest selves. In this episode I am so fortunate to sit down with Nashville-based therapist Megan Flores, to talk more in depth about  
Where people pleasing comes from;
Does your family or the way you were raised play a role in shaping that characteristic in you?
And how does one heal from chronic people-pleasing?
Megan shares her thoughts on the common trauma responses: fight, flight, and freeze and this "newer" term we both just learned about called fawning (or appeasing) and how “people pleasing” can be considered a response from trauma.
We also talk about the Karpman Triangle, a model of dysfunctional social interactions that we all tend to fall in and out of at some point in our lives during conflict: the victim, the rescuer and the perpetrator (persecutor). 
 
The biggest piece of advice from Megan you'll walk away with is this - we're all human, we all make mistakes, but taking time for self-discovery and understanding that the things you choose to do are moving you forward.  Take ownership of your happiness and stay curious.
 
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